It was a pleasant day yesterday and I and my husband ventured out for a cup of coffee. He hates coffee but loves me and in a blink of eye takes me out when I am craving for coffee. After enjoying my cup we marched out of the café. Being genteel, my husband pulled out the door for this educated smart sikh couple simultaneously entering the café. This guy did not even have the courtesy to say thanks. He barged in, not bothering to hold the door for his wife, left her out with a shut door.
What is it about females that make us so vulnerable?
Since ancient times, females have been manifested as the home bearer and men as the bread earner. Times have changed and centuries have passed still we can easily find markings of this old philosophy in our society. Be it educated, rich or poor it is still rooted in many people. Guess blaming men is not correct. It was Eve, a woman, who accepted the responsibility as a home bearer. But blaming her all together does not do any good because we can say for sure whether Adam respected her equally as she did or not. It is something about the female sect that we love carrying this torch and yet grieve about it. See the issue is not who will cook tonight and who will wash the dishes, rather being tight spotted is what my sect declines. It is about the whole perception of few men that this blog is all about.
From the time of our birth, every girl dreams of having her own home, pampering her interior decorator, relishing being a devoted wife and cherishing being a mother. In any relationship, divided duties and equal respect bring out the best in both partners. Our semantically complex world has many untapped areas and seems like we have mentally accepted victory on being a home bearer and wish to claim victory on other designations. Yet we have males and females like my yesterday’s collision. It saddens me watching men behave so disrespectful to their spouses, mother of his kids and even deepens the grief when females accept such decorum thus inculcate same etiquettes in their kids. Maybe these couples are so engrossed in their duties that they have forgotten being cultured towards each other.
We are being taught in schools to respect each other yet few boys end up being man disrespecting their mothers and wives. How can we claim that our education is intact and we are growing as an economy when basic humane conduct is not being injected in our generations? When kids are toddlers, imparting them this vital schooling is way too important than expecting masters and degrees when they finish their education. Rather it needs to be a crucial duty of parents to transmit etiquettes to their little angels so that we don’t have men dishonoring women.
“It is a man’s job to respect women but it’s a women’s job to give him something to respect…”