Troubleland..really?? or it is our creation!!

It was a pleasant day yesterday and I and my husband ventured out for a cup of coffee. He hates coffee but loves me and in a blink of eye takes me out when I am craving for coffee. After enjoying my cup we marched out of the café. Being genteel, my husband pulled out the door for this educated smart sikh couple simultaneously entering the café. This guy did not even have the courtesy to say thanks. He barged in, not bothering to hold the door for his wife, left her out with a shut door.

What is it about females that make us so vulnerable?

Since ancient times, females have been manifested as the home bearer and men as the bread earner. Times have changed and centuries have passed still we can easily find markings of this old philosophy in our society. Be it educated, rich or poor it is still rooted in many people. Guess blaming men is not correct. It was Eve, a woman, who accepted the responsibility as a home bearer. But blaming her all together does not do any good because we can say for sure whether Adam respected her equally as she did or not. It is something about the female sect that we love carrying this torch and yet grieve about it. See the issue is not who will cook tonight and who will wash the dishes, rather being tight spotted is what my sect declines. It is about the whole perception of few men that this blog is all about.

From the time of our birth, every girl dreams of having her own home, pampering her interior decorator, relishing being a devoted wife and cherishing being a mother. In any relationship, divided duties and equal respect bring out the best in both partners. Our semantically complex world has many untapped areas and seems like we have mentally accepted victory on being a home bearer and wish to claim victory on other designations. Yet we have males and females like my yesterday’s collision. It saddens me watching men behave so disrespectful to their spouses, mother of his kids and even deepens the grief when females accept such decorum thus inculcate same etiquettes in their kids. Maybe these couples are so engrossed in their duties that they have forgotten being cultured towards each other.

We are being taught in schools to respect each other yet few boys end up being man disrespecting their mothers and wives. How can we claim that our education is intact and we are growing as an economy when basic humane conduct is not being injected in our generations? When kids are toddlers, imparting them this vital schooling is way too important than expecting masters and degrees when they finish their education. Rather it needs to be a crucial duty of parents to transmit etiquettes to their little angels so that we don’t have men dishonoring women.

“It is a man’s job to respect women but it’s a women’s job to give him something to respect…”

Let it go Happily!!!!

How tough is it to let go of the past and welcome the future?

I know it’s always hard to say things but it gets harsh when we have to let go of them because actual perspective builds up once you are in that situation. But haven’t we all been there? Letting go of your favorite bed time teddy, your best flavor of ice cream, your 1^st grade dress, your first bicycle and so on. I love them all… we all did… !!!

Today companies are changing their products at such a fast pace, it’s like me eating uncle chips. Hahha.. Yes I know it’s a weird comparison but for me uncle chips were the most important part of buying groceries while back in India. And then the unknown disaster happened. PepsiCo acquired the company manufacturing Uncle chips and decided to tap this brand’s customer base by introducing even more flavors of Lays. No no this blog is not on decline of uncle chips or all acquisitions of PepsiCo rather on an underlying subject of “Change”.

I am sure we all are familiar with this trend of products phasing out and even more in quantity being introduced. Today we have so many choices available everywhere and in everything. We can happily survive only if we accept this change with high spirits. However can we? Yes why not. I was a loyal customer of Uncle Chips since I remember eating. We have parted our ways with happiness. Again it’s easy to say to change however it is tough based on your relationship with the product, garment, flavor or even a person. At my husband’s workplace, one of his colleagues has Metathesiophobia, fear of change, and he procrastinate any new thing the team suggests to implement. We have so many people around who suffers from this but will not accept it because for them acceptance is part of change. I guess with such people around, team can never change, grow and prosper.

If we look around, everything changes every second… even nature. The earth that we have known is not the same anymore. Take our kids for instance. Today even a toddler knows how to operate a cell phone or an i-pad whereas when we were that age, we were so naïve.

This scares me a little also, if we all keep on changing, then nothing will be constant. What about relationships? Accordingly to a report published by UN’s Demographic and Social Statistics Division, Belgium has been ranked as top country in the world with highest divorce cases and a percentage of 71%. Sad isn’t it? A nation being ranked topper in broken relationships and hence a love-starved childhood for the kids. I guess this cannot be categorized under change as this is palpitation of a depressed mind for an uncertain future.

So accept change and do change but value the importance of things, relations and people around you. And yes it is not tough to let go of past and venture into future if you have the loving support of your family and friends and most importantly yours.